An Open Letter To The Coffee Moms - Like Honey

An Open Letter To The Coffee Moms



I get it. Raising these tiny humans is absolutely exhausting. I know because I’m in the thick of it right now. I know tired and I know desperation. Although my preferred caffeine choice is a sweet tea or Cherry Coke, I’m right there with you—raising my styrofoam cup.

But I’m gonna get honest with y’all and I know some of you aren’t gonna like it…


When did moms become so annoying? When did we decide it was so cute to complain so much? When did it become okay for us to act like the whiny, bratty toddlers we so desperately need a break from?

I know, I know — “It’s okay to vent." "You shouldn’t shame a mom for needing a break”. Trust me, I agree with you! As someone with a history of mental health issues, I’ll be the first person to tell you that holding in your feelings is one of the worst things you can do for your emotional well-being. But I can also tell you that stewing over negativity and not overcoming it can be even worse. Why are we so eager to hop online and boast about how desperately we need a drink? I am proud to surround myself with women who uplift and encourage each other in the hard times instead of joining in the chorus of “my kids are for sale!” When we stop and put things into perspective, are we really supporting our fellow moms by joining in or are we indirectly tearing them further down?



When we dwell on how tired we are and constantly complain about how much we need a break from our kids, we sink deeper and deeper into that negativity. When we respond to a mom’s post about having her third cup of joe for the day, are we cheering on her negativity or are we telling her what a strong mom she is? What a strong mom we can all be, if we just support each other more wholly.

So please, instead of drowning our sorrows in a plethora of coffee cup emojis, how about we make a toast to all the mamas that we know have totally got this. Motherhood is hard. And we all deserve a drink.

Cheers!


10 comments

  1. Love this, Mariah! I know there are days when motherhood is completely exhausting, but I don't think moms realize the damage they're causing with their constant whining, First of all, it makes women like me who haven't chosen to have kids wonder if it's really worth the trouble! Second, it can be very hurtful to the scores of women who long to become a mom and haven't had that chance. Life is hard - whether it's marriage, motherhood, work or physical struggles. Our attitude is always our choice.

    Hugs!
    Whitney @ Come Home For Comfort

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    1. You hit the nail on the head, Whitney! You are such a great model of a Proverbs 31 woman and I appreciate your support on this issue! I completely agree.

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  2. I love this Mariah! I totally agree with you! We need to encourage other moms. Our children are such blessings from God. Toddler years are rough, but I wouldn't trade these days for nothing. The precious memories are priceless because they grow up way too fast.

    Della
    www.delladevoted.com

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    1. Amen, Della! I always love having your posts in my social media because even when you are having a rough day, you remind me to PRAY and stay strong! Being a mom is hard but having Godly, supportive mom friends makes it so much easier! It takes a village!

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  3. Absolutely love this!! I think it is what every mom needs to hear. Yes it's fine to vent but have a mom tribe that builds you up and encourages you in those hard times and reminds you of how great of a mother you are.

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    1. Thank you! The support is so much more important in the long run ❤️

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  4. Love this! Thanks for sharing!

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  5. Oh man! #guilty more than I'd like to admit! Thanks for sharing your heart. This mama needed it big time!

    - Mary
    www.MissMaryPowers.com

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  6. I definitely try to balance my "this is hard and I'm so tired" posts with "my kids are awesome and I wouldn't trade them for anything" posts. Because that's just motherhood. It is such a roller coaster.

    You are right about the negativity. I hadn't realized how caught up in it I can get. I'm trying to run three businesses, run a house, raise two children (one of which is a ridiculously busy toddler and the other is hard in another way), etc. I am tired. But focusing on that and how hard it is doesn't help the situations at all. I choose this life. I need either need to be happy with it or change something, not just complain and drink all the coffee. ;)

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